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Four Steps To Thrive As A Mom With Regrets

On a good day, when everything is going exactly the way I want it to. I would tell you that I have no regrets about my life.
 
But on days when I’m being realistic I will tell you that I have quite a few regrets.
 
Like spending over a year in a relationship with guy who was in love with one of my friends, but I kept hoping that he would see just how amazing I was.
 
Or the fact that I spent 4 years in undergraduate, spending thousands of dollars majoring in Health Information Management, when I probably would have enjoyed computer science better… except I didn’t know that women could take computer science.
 
I can list quite a number of regrets, but one thing I have realized is that life has a funny way of making things work out. No matter what happens, life has an interesting way of helping you get to where you want to get to…if you just don’t give up. 
 
Step 1
 Realize that Life can still get you where you want to get to if you just don’t give up. And if you decide that your plan B can actually be so much better than your plan A.
 
Step 2
Accept the fact that you just can’t go back in time…and that’s a blessing. What has happened has happened, and if you were to be completely fair to yourself you will come to the conclusion that you made the best decision for your self at the time, with the knowledge you had. 
 
Yes looking back now you may make a different decision, but at the time you thought it was the best decision, so you took it.
 
Step 3
Since today is tomorrow’s past, it would be greatly to your advantage to think about what you’re doing today as if it is 5 years later. 
 
This thing you’re doing, the way you’re treating your friends, your family, your job, your business, and anything else…would you be proud of it? Would you be happy with it? If not, is there something you can change today?
 
Step 4
You decide what your step 4 will be.
Whatever it is that you need to do to celebrate you, go ahead and do it now….
 
So yes we may have regrets, but it’s okay…because life can still be phenomenal… and motherhood can still be the best party that life has to offer
 
Which of these have you tried before?
What would you add to this list? 
 
Regards,
-Osayi
Osayi
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Hi, I’m Shanicia! I live in Atlanta, GA. I’m a fulltime mom to one pretty rambuncious little girl. I love cooking, coloring Mandalas, and reading. To find out why I started Black Moms Blog, read our very first blog post!

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