Yesterday I went to see Girls Trip starring Jada Pinkett Smith, Queen Latifah, Regina Hall, and Tiffany Haddish. Don’t worry, I won’t reveal any spoilers in this article but if you haven’t seen it yet, I highly suggest you scoot your butt to your nearest theater and grab some seats, preferably with your closest girlfriends. While I expected the movie to be good, it far exceeded my expectations. There were some real moments of truth on screen that no one could deny. We are discussing 5 Reasons Why Every Mother Should Still Take A Girls Trip.
Each Character Reveals An Important Part Of Our Personalities
Like most movies and sitcoms starring multiple women (think Girlfriends or Sex and The City), each character reveals a certain truth about the depths of every woman. I’ve seen a lot of memes floating around asking women, “Which Character Are You?” As I reflected on that question, I realized that I couldn’t pinpoint myself to just one. That’s reason number one it is important to take a girls trip as a mom. We can get lost in our mundane routine of parenting, most closely illustrated through Jada Pinkett Smith’s character, Lisa Cooper. When “Mom” becomes the only name you hear all day, you can forget about all those other colorful parts of your personality that truly make you who you are. Just because you are a mom, doesn’t mean you can’t be fun. It doesn’t mean you can’t have it all. And it surely doesn’t mean you have to lose your sex appeal.
Our Friends Can Be Reality Checks
In the movie we watched Regina Hall’s character, Ryan Pierce, lead on the role of the woman who has it all. Thriving career, handsome husband, she was literally Oprah 2.0. Living her real life through the eyes of her social media following, she became disconnected to her own truth and her life. Take us back to college where our friends knew every detail of our day. We didn’t make many decisions without consulting our home girls. Who to date, what to wear, they were our mirrors. Even though times have changed and as adults we have learned discretion, especially within your individual marriages, it is still important to remember that your best friends only have your best interest in mind and want you to be happy. Sometimes when we make it a point to distance ourselves from those we love most, it is because we are hiding a truth we don’t want to be discovered.
Life Can’t Be All Work And No Play
I have many friends who are not only mothers but also Mompreneurs. We rarely get breaks from our children and life can become a mindless dedication to work, bills, and family. Before you know it, you are watching your life as a fly on the wall. Self care is a necessity and balance is a major part of that equation. Don’t feel bad planning a getaway trip with your girls! We may not all be able to go to Essence Fest for the weekend, but we can definitely take a much needed spa trip and lunch meet up.
If Mama’s Happy, Everyone Is
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I keep speaking of Jada’s character because, even though exaggerated, her character is the real life deal for most moms. Lisa was a recent divorcee who lived with her mom and micromanaged every single part of her life. And not just her life but everyone’s life around her. She makes a statement in the movie to Regina’s character, Ryan Pierce, where she tells her that she should consider having children because no one loves you like your kids. Having children will not replace the hurt and pain of being lonely. It does not make up for husband love. And it will most definitely not save a failing marriage. By learning to find that balance, to love yourself and make yourself happy, everyone around you will benefit.
It’s OK To Take Off Your Super Woman Cap
I recently had a discussion with some friends about the term #blackgirlmagic. While we use it mostly as a term of strength and endearment, we don’t want to always be magic. It’s not fair to always have to be so damn strong. Sometimes we have to let down the shield of strength and have a dance off in the middle of a club with our girls. Let go of the fear of embarrassment, judgement, and just have a good time. There is plenty of strength in that too. I see moms judged harshly because they still go out and have a good time and a lot of times that judgement comes from a place of jealously. What will people think if they see me, as a mom, out at a club? I’ll tell you. They will think that you are a human who needs a break. And that’s OK. Take off your super woman cap and let go. I promise, it will be fine.
Have you seen Girls Trip? What were your thoughts?